REMAIN AWAKE TO BEAUTY
There are moments of light … when she sees him once again in his purest self, young and carefree the way he was before the cares of the world burned down on him.
Then, there are times when the light comes, and she doesn’t recognize his true self. It’s been too long and she has forgotten. She might offer the bitter: let the light shine right through her. Too bad, Mister. Too little, too late.
PRAY AND REMAIN AWAKE TO BEAUTY
One time when she was young, she went hunting with a friend. They hid in the trees and watched — sprung upon their prey unawares from their secret place. To hunt the light is not like this, however. It’s more like catching fireflies, sitting in the open with a watchful eye, letting the moment light upon your skin. Then softly, oh so tenderly, cupping it in your hands, cradling it close before letting it fly away again, lifting its warm glow into the dark.
In my book Playdates with God, I share the research of Dr. John Gottman (known as “The Love Doctor”) who has studied love and marriage for years. He says that by observing a couple for as short as five minutes, he can predict with significant accuracy whether their marriage will last. One of the factors he has identified in determining this is how they remember. Sometimes, when I feel like giving up, I close my eyes and remember the beginning. I spend some time reflecting on why I fell in love with my husband, what made my heart resonate with him. Those qualities are still there, only sometimes I forget them under the weight of the days.
- Spend some time remembering today. Watch home movies, look at your wedding album, read an old journal. Remember.
- How do you respond when the moments of light cascade over the humdrum of every day?
Sometimes we can smother out these tiny flickers, dismiss them in the midst of the busy, but when depression lives in your life, these glimpses of light must be celebrated. Reinforce the happy moments by being fully present with them. Let your beloved know how much you delight in his or her delight. Cradle the light close to your heart.
**This series contains reflections on loving someone who has Depression. If you are in this place, or know someone who is, I hope you’ll join me in this journey. We have two more installments to go. These words cannot replace medical or psychological treatment, but I hope they will be a source of encouragement.