Navigating marriage with chronic illness can be dark and lonely, yet it can also be an opportunity to learn patience, forgiveness, tenderness, humility and sacrifice – gifts of a love forged by fire, a love to celebrate and savor.
PLEASE DON’T SAY IT
How do you truly relate to others’ pain if you’ve never walked their path? And how do you express your concern in a way that comforts while avoiding platitudes or filling empty space with hollow syllables that help no one?
“The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” Proverbs 18:21 Read more…
To Love Like He Does
“She held his hand like she never wanted to let him go,” my husband told me quietly one evening. It’d been a tough day. A co-worker whom my husband deeply respected was losing his battle with cancer. He and his wife had stopped by the office to pick up his things and say goodbye. He was a tremendously talented man, a father of three young children, husband of a beautiful wife, and he had a contagious passion for life. Read more…
Celebrating Even in the Struggle
Marriage can be hard. Our marriage is a redemption story. We weren’t unfaithful. We didn’t stray physically or emotionally. But we did lose our way, slowly releasing hands and hearts across the years — my husband to his job, me to our kids. Read more…
In Sickness and in Health – Part One
“. . .in sickness and in health.” You have no real way of knowing exactly what you’re pledging before God and your wedding guests when you utter those five little words. But like every other part of your vows, this phrase will be tested. Read more…
In Sickness and Health – Part Two
I can’t relate first-hand to what it’s been like to experience Dena’s debilitating symptoms, but I have learned my fair share of what to do (and maybe more importantly) what not to do as the spouse of someone who is suffering. If you have a sick spouse—especially when that illness is prolonged—perhaps what I’ve learned will encourage you. Read more…
A Grateful Heart
“It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It’s gratefulness that makes us happy.” If we take a moment to stop, be mindful of the given moment, and be thankful for life’s opportunities, we hold the key to happiness in our own hands. In his words: “Stop, Look and Go.” Read more…
When the Needy One is You
I was always the one helping the needy one. Now the needy one was me! Over the past three months as our family has faced three hospitalizations, I have had to come to grips with my neediness. It’s an uncomfortable place, an unfamiliar place. It’s so much easier to help others. Read more…
My Journey to Acceptance
When he was first diagnosed, there was hope, but once realization of his rare chronic illness called achalasia started setting in, I experienced a faith crisis. I prayed and wondered why in the world this was happening. It wasn’t part of my plan for our lives. The future seemed filled with question marks and uncertainty of the future. Read more…
“There’s a purpose for our pain. Our perishing bodies are being used for His glory.” Jolene Engle
“When Thomas* and Carina* returned from their honeymoon in 1997, Carina was placed on long-term disability from work due to a string of illnesses – including lupus, fibromyalgia, migraines, arthritis and heart problems….What followed were years of chronic physical pain, sometimes keeping Carina bound to her bed day in and day out. Thomas often cooks, cleans, cares for their two young boys, does the laundry, buys groceries and serves as Carina’s primary caregiver. ‘I had the feeling of helplessness when I realized that her conditions simply wouldn’t go away,’ he recalls.” Focus on the Family Canada
“Despite the distractions, difficulties, and sicknesses there are tangible things that we all can do to get our focus back on our marriage and make it strong and to help it thrive.” Tricia, Abounding in Hope with Lyme
“When we married in 2002, I already had a chronic illness. At that time, I was still able to attend college, and after graduating I was able to work a part-time job for a while. However, less than two years after getting married, my health deteriorated to the point that I became disabled and homebound.” Rachel Lundy
“It can be so easy to focus on our health and lose the focus on our relationship. Marriage is hard work – with or without a chronic illness. But anything worthwhile is worth the work involved.” Kim, Grace is Sufficient: Finding and Purpose after Diagnosis
Love at First Fight, Carey and Dena Dyer
This book will give your marriage encouragement and hope if you find that the once endearing, charming, and distinct qualities that once attracted you to your spouse are now a source of stress and conflict. In sharing humorous, personal stories from both the male and female perspective, husband and wife writing team Carey and Dena Dyer will help you discover that a fun, resilient, fulfilling marriage can be realized through hard work, forgiveness, God s grace, and a sense of humor.
An inspiring interview with Chronic Joy Founders, Pamela Piquette and Cindee Snider Re.
A powerful interview with Chronic Joy Ministry Co-Founder, Cindee Snider Re and her husband Tony.
“Marriage in chronic illness is tough. And there’s no way to sugarcoat it, it just IS. So I’ve invited my husband on the podcast today to offer his unique perspective as the spouse of someone fighting chronic illness. Because, if you’ve been fighting illness for more than a minute you KNOW that this battle affects them, too.” Kami Lingren