Parenting Children with Chronic Illness
Raising a child with chronic illness – a blessing in disguise.
Parenting a child with chronic illness requires more strength, resolve, perseverance and courage than we likely ever dreamed possible, yet it also blesses us with the gifts of compassion, perspective, presence, and profound love as we are daily drawn closer to Christ.
About Parenting
Parents want to protect their children and keep them safe. It can be challenging to learn that your child has chronic illness and/or mental illness. Often parents feel guilty, weary, anxious, depressed, lonely, and sad.
Almost 42% of children live with at least one chronic illness.
Worldwide 50% of all mental illness begins by age 14 and most are undetected and untreated.
GIVE THE PRECIOUS GIFT OF HOPE.
Celebrating or honoring an outstanding nurse or teacher, a friend, or loved one with a gift of hope is even more meaningful when it also enriches the lives of those living with chronic physical and mental illness, kindling the precious embers of hope in the lives of those who often feel isolated, forgotten about, and alone. LEARN MORE.
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GIFTS IN CELEBRATION OF
CELEBRATING YOU!
Celebrate someone special with a gift of hope in their name, a gift whose ripples enriches the lives of all those impacted by chronic physical and mental illness.
GIFTS IN HONOR OF
IN HONOR OF
A gift in honor of a loved one, mentor, friend, or colleague is a beautiful link in the life-giving ministry of Chronic Joy. Together we are always better!
Chronic illness is hard. Often finding and/or being a part of a community as a parent of a child with chronic illness can be even more challenging.
Comfort: Inspirations for Parents of Chronically Ill Children
Kathy Hardy
This sensitive, honest, and heartfelt devotional doesn’t pull any punches. It encounters all aspects of raising a chronically ill child and helps others understand the day-to-day struggles and joys. It is eight weeks of reality: the good, the bad, and the ugly. At the end of each week of devotions, you’ll find a short chapter of Kathy’s family’s continuing story of raising their eight children, three of whom have Cystic Fibrosis (CF).
The Life We Never Expected: Hopeful Reflections on the Challenges of Parenting Children with Special Needs
Andrew Wilson, et al.
Sometimes life throws you a curveball. Andrew and Rachel Wilson know what it means to live a life they never expected. As the parents of two children with special needs, their story mingles deep pain with deep joy in unexpected places. With raw honesty, they share about the challenges they face on a daily basis, what it means to weep, worship, wait, and hope in the Lord. This book will help you cling to Jesus and fight for joy when faced with a life you never expected.
The Blessing: Giving the Gift of Unconditional Love and Acceptance
Gary Smalley and John Trent
Children of every age long for the gift of “the blessing” — the unconditional love and approval that come from a healthy relationship with their parents. This life-changing gift is essential for instilling a deep sense of self-worth and unshakable emotional well-being. Offering solid, practical advice and a fresh perspective on making this gift a bigger part of our families.
A Different Dream for My Child: Meditations for Parents of Critically or Chronically Ill Children
Jolene Philo
The devotional meditations in this book address the spiritual needs of parents of chronically ill children as the author shares her own life lessons, as well as those of other parents who have walked this road. No matter how difficult the road, Philo says, you do not have to lose hope.
Blog Posts
When Our Children Hurt • Hope for the Parent Grieving Their Child’s Pain
Trials and suffering in our lives can be anything from stretching to down right devastating. However, I think most people would probably agree that as painful as it is to endure suffering in our own lives, it can be even more painful to watch our children suffer. But in this world, suffer...
Words of Hope for a Baby Born Blind
As I Prayed ... Dear John and Diane, Last night, as I prayed with Noel, you were heavy on my mind. I said, “Lord, O Lord, please let me be a pastor who preaches and leads and loves in a way that makes the impossibilities of life possible for your people by a miracle of sustaining grace....
10,000 Reasons • When Gratitude Kickstarts Joy
GOD LACKS NO CREATIVITY EVEN IN THE LABOR ROOMS OF CHANGE Two years ago our gentle teenager began to steadily turn into a stranger we could hardly recognize. A new medication put an end to his seizures a year later, but the trial had just begun. ...
Resources
ARTICLES
To Those Caring for Sick Children, Lexi Behrndt
“You are heroes. You are angels. You get to see miracles happen daily at your job. You get to see little lives come back after catastrophe and devastation, and you watch as they heal and grow and smile again.
And then sometimes you don’t.”
To the Momma of a Critically and Chronically Ill Child, Lexi Behrndt
“You are brave. You are strong. You are loving. You fight for your children when they can’t fight for themselves. You hope for them and you stay positive for them, and then run to the bathroom just to cry in the stall where they can’t see. You research and talk to doctors and talk to other parents to find the best possible treatment plans and solutions to give the best life to your child…You go to the places no one wants to go. You know a side of the world that most would like to pretend doesn’t exist.”
Parenting Through Chronic Illness, Rachelle Wiggins
“For the past decade, God has allowed me the gracious trial of raising my children from the bed of chronic illness. The learning curve was steep: I battled against the desire to be more and do more while living within the limitations of a broken body. Over time, I recognized a few principles that helped me survive — and still be a good parent — during the storm of ongoing illness.”
VIDEO
Trying to describe being the parent of a child with a disability or chronic illness can be very challenging. This short video offers a beautiful and creative explanation.
“The loss of that dream [a well child] is a very significant loss, but if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland.”
WEBSITES
When Kristin Wall’s son, Ethan, was bedridden for twenty-three days, he missed a lot more than school and the regional basketball championships. Over the course of his illness not one friend or teammate reached out to him, and as Kristin observed, that had a devastating impact on her son’s mental state. “I watched him go into depression,” she said. “These boys are boys I’ve fed and treated like sons for years… and not a single text came through.”
“Because of everything my family went through with my son and what our small town had faced, I felt led to create a movement called #only7seconds.” The goal of the movement was simple: spread kindness through thoughtfulness. “Take seven seconds out of your day to send a text telling someone that you are thinking of them.” To Kristin, this simple thought meant everything. “You never know if that text could be the one thing giving them an inkling that life is worth living.”
Even More
GRIT - STRENGTH OF CHARACTER
“In order to cultivate gratitude in kids who are sick, the focus must be on allowing them to tell their own #story, creating a safe space for them to share, and creating opportunities to highlight the blessings and strengths around them.” DiggingDeep.org
MY CHILDREN'S PAIN
“There is a purpose to suffering,” says Timothy Keller, “and if faced rightly, it can drive us like a nail deep into the love of God and into more stability and spiritual power than you can imagine.”
CHILDREN COMMUTE BETWEEN WORLDS
“Children living with illness inhabit two worlds: the medical world and the wider world of “normal.” Most of the time children ‘commute’ between these worlds, an extraordinary challenge.” DiggingDeep.org
INTERVIEWS
SHARING LIFE, DISCOVERING HOPE AND A FEW FUNNY MOMENTS