Marriage with illness, pain, or disability can be difficult, but it can also be an opportunity to learn patience, forgiveness, and sacrifice - gifts to savor and celebrate.



Marriage with illness, pain, or disability can be difficult, but it can also be an opportunity to learn patience, forgiveness, and sacrifice – gifts to savor and celebrate.


Marriage is challenging at the best of times; adding chronic illnessmental illness, or chronic pain brings a whole new level of complication to consider and work through. There are no easy answers. Chronic illness affects each person differently and will in turn affect each marriage in unique ways. Our prayer is that these heartfelt blog posts will offer encouragement for both you and your spouse.

Earworms of Affirmation and Love

Marriage is challenging enough and adding a chronic illness adds a whole new dimension. Let’s have the words that we say to each other become earworms of affirmation and love.


"We want our marriages to be places where our words are life-giving." Kara Plett

Make Laughter a Daily Priority – Why and How

Daily life with chronic illness can be extremely stressful. However, it’s only fitting (and scriptural) that we as believers develop and nurture a spirit of hope and optimism about the future. I find that laughter is a key ingredient in helping me hold onto that spirit.


"You plan out exercise and meals, so why not carve out time in your schedule to laugh?" Dena Dyer

I Watch

I watch, Father, as my heart struggles to know what to do, how to do it, and how to bring comfort where there is so much pain.


"You will watch me, Father, as I keep on drawing my strength from You, giving You my deepest longings, knowing that You will meet me in the cry of my heart. I will watch you, Father, as You lead me through the desert one step at a time." Kim Moir


I TAKE YOU IN SICKNESS & IN HEALTH: Marriage with Chronic Illness

Cindee Snider Re

Rejuvenate, revitalize, rekindle, and reconnect with this insightful and enriching 10-chapter study (designed just for couples) that offers you and your spouse a safe place to grieve, heal, grow, and begin to dream together again – to thrive as one – in sickness and in health.


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This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence

John Piper et al.

Discover the Biblical meaning of marriage over its emotion, exhorting couples to keep their covenant as a display of Christ’s covenant-keeping love for the church. Lifting the church’s low view of marriage to something infinitely greater - a vision of Jesus’s unswerving allegiance to and affection for his bride. This book unpacks the Biblical vision, its unexpected contours, and its weighty implications.

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A Chronicle of Grief: Finding Life After Traumatic Loss

Hope Heals: A True Story of Overwhelming Loss and an Overcoming Love

Katherine Wolf et al.

When all seems lost, where can hope be found? Katherine suffered a massive brain stem stroke without warning. Miraculously, Jay came home in time and called for help. Katherine was rushed into surgery, though her chance of survival was slim. Through 40 days on life support and nearly 2 years in full-time brain rehab, Katherine gradually recovered.  Years later, they are stewarding their story of suffering, restoration, and Christ-centered hope through their ministry Hope Heals.

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Love at First Fight

Carey and Dena Dyer

If you find that the once endearing, charming, and distinct qualities that attracted you to your spouse are now a source of stress and conflict, this book may be helpful. In sharing humorous, personal stories from both male and female perspectives, the Dyers guide you in discovering that a fun, resilient, fulfilling marriage can be realized through hard work, forgiveness, God’s grace, and a sense of humor. Fifty-two conversational meditations including practical action steps to develop a deeper connection with your spouse will inform and delight you both.

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Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?

Gary Thomas

Your marriage is more than a sacred covenant with another person. It is a spiritual discipline designed to help you know God better, trust him more fully, and love him more deeply. What if God’s primary intent for your marriage isn’t to make you happy...but holy?

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The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

Timothy Keller

Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of forty-three years years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. Discover insights and "how to" for having a successful marriage.

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The Meaning of Marriage: A Couple's Devotional: A Year of Daily Devotions

Timothy Keller

In this 365-day devotional, Tim and his wife of forty-three years, Kathy, share powerful instructions on how to have a successful marriage. Find stories, daily scriptures, and prayer prompts that will inspire anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.

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Jesus is the Question: The 307 Questions Jesus Asked and the 3 He Answered

Suffer Strong: How to Survive Anything by Redefining Everything

Katherine Wolf

Is it possible to embrace suffering as a privilege, rather than a punishment? Readers will find the bold invitation to trust a known God with an unknown future, as well as practical insights into surviving anything by redefining how we think about everything.

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Chronic Illness in Marriage: There’s a Purpose for the Pain

“There’s a purpose for our pain.  Our perishing bodies are being used for His glory.” Jolene Engle

Spousal Caregivers: When Chronic Illness Crashes into Your Marriage

“When Thomas* and Carina* returned from their honeymoon in 1997, Carina was placed on long-term disability from work due to a string of illnesses – including lupus, fibromyalgia, migraines, arthritis and heart problems….What followed were years of chronic physical pain, sometimes keeping Carina bound to her bed day in and day out. Thomas often cooks, cleans, cares for their two young boys, does the laundry, buys groceries and serves as Carina’s primary caregiver. ‘I had the feeling of helplessness when I realized that her conditions simply wouldn’t go away,’ he recalls.” Focus on the Family Canada

How to Get Your Focus Back on Your Marriage

“Despite the distractions, difficulties, and sicknesses there are tangible things that we all can do to get our focus back on our marriage and make it strong and to help it thrive.” Tricia, Abounding in Hope with Lyme

Marriage Blessings Through Chronic Illness

“When we married in 2002, I already had a chronic illness. At that time, I was still able to attend college, and after graduating I was able to work a part-time job for a while. However, less than two years after getting married, my health deteriorated to the point that I became disabled and homebound.” Rachel Lundy

When Chronic Illness Joins Your Marriage

“It can be so easy to focus on our health and lose the focus on our relationship. Marriage is hard work – with or without a chronic illness. But anything worthwhile is worth the work involved.” Kim,



FIERCE MARRIAGE is a call for married couples to put God first and to love with a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in. Founded to point couples to Christ and to commission marriages for the Gospel, founders Ryan and Selena Frederick offer hope and practical help for common struggles, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.




by Our American Stories | Marriage On The Mind: Chronic Emotional/Physical Pain (Ep 1)


by Our American Stories | Marriage On The Mind: Chronic Illness (Ep 2)

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