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  • Mental Illness Stole My Father’s Days - Fifteen years into fatherhood, mental illness burst into my son’s life and took up long-term residence.  So did chaos, friction, tears, lying, arguments, anger, and disrespect.  Then drugs. Then jail. Then death. As is often the case, guilt, self-doubt, and self-criticism also moved in, right into my heart. Up until that time, Father’s Day was…
  • Pamela and Cindee Finding Joy – Just Between Us - Pamela Piquette and Cindee Snider Re never imagined what purpose God had for a friendship that started in the least likely way. They were initially brought together through their boys who couldn’t get along. Through those encounters, Pamela and Cindee started building a friendship. They were two moms each living normal lives until Cindee received a diagnosis…
  • Eyes Open - There are days that do not feel post-worthy. Or noteworthy. There are days where everything gets cancelled and you don’t even get to enjoy it. There are days when your skin is blotchy and your clothes are wrinkled, and it doesn’t even matter. There are bad hair days and laundry days and cleaning days. There…
  • Watcher – Caregiver - Caregiver. For years I never considered that this label belonged to me. It seemed too formal, to restrictive, too…important for what I did to help my chronically ill mum. Hugs and housework and understanding. Surely those didn’t deserve such a label? Yet when my younger sister was diagnosed with a brain tumor and I spent…
  • Love seeks one thing only: the good of the loved one. The Ups and Downs of Caregiving - When I was a child I rarely considered what it meant to become elderly. I certainly didn’t think life would become more difficult when someone I loved needed caregiving assistance in her elder years. Now that I am a senior myself, I see how complicated life can be. A caregiver is defined as “an individual…
  • Field Notes of Pain – Jesus, A Pain Pioneer - This is part two in a two-part series entitled: Field Notes of Pain ….. There was this youth group kid that whittled. You know, the art of taking a piece of wood and turning it into a troll or something. He did that. And he was good. I was fascinated –  first, that a high…
  • 4 Things You Should Stop Doing Right Now - As a chronic illness warrior, there is a lot on my plate. Normal life responsibilities, additional medical struggles that most don’t have to worry about and the desire to enjoy life and all that it offers. The last thing I need is to do more than what is absolutely necessary and to do things that…
  • “I’m fine, don’t worry about me!” -   There is nothing easy about watching others struggle with chronic illness. In watching, we suffer too. There are two answers, one is community, the other is God.  Watchers, we are not Saints “I’m okay.” “I’ve got this.” “Honestly, it’s fine, I promise.” Sometimes it’s easy to forget that we are only a Watcher and…
  • Image of cacti with Colossians 3:12 The Hidden Labor of Disability - Do your best to offer to help do some of that work if you can. The hidden labor is real and exhausting, despite being hidden. ... Understand if they cancel plans at the last minute. Empty their dishwasher or fold their laundry while they’re on the phone.
  • 3 Things Not to Say to a Depressed Person - I can’t remember a time when chronic depression wasn’t a nemesis for me. As a child I often felt an overwhelming sadness and wept without understanding why. Now I’m a 67-year-old Christian college professor who still wanders occasionally into the dark fog of hopelessness. As an adult, a number of acquaintances have said things to…
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